Monday, November 10, 2008

Lipstick Jungle

Ok, I usually don't do posts of things I watch cuz I feel that it makes me look superficial, but whatever! I love Lipstick Jungle as well as Ghost Whisperer, (ok, that one I used to before Friday.) I like Lipstick because of the female characters, and well mainly becuase I just want to dress like them. I was looking through some family pictures while house sitting at my mom and my my my, did I NOT have fashion sense. I still kind of don't, so I play it safe A LOT.
Anyway, to my point. I wanted to ask Isaiah this question, but then I panicked with him thinking I was speaking of myself (even though I know he'd wonder for about 10 seconds.) But in one of the episodes, the Brook Sheild's character who is happily married, mother of two, gets kissed on Halloween weekend by a male friend, who is unhappily divorcing, father of one. It was obvious that he was the instigator, but she didn't exactly slap him off. They were both shocked by what had happened, but she was more confused. It didn't go any further than that, and they both were actually really embarrassed and awkward about it as the episode went on. She asked this of her two girlfriends (one who was having an affair and the other who is single) if it was cheating. They said "nothing happened." So now I pose it to you, my friends (holy crap! those two words will never be uttered with out a chuckle). Is kissing cheating? If not, what is? Is emotional cheating the worse you can do? Is intercourse cheating? Is having a really great friendship with a person you're attracted to cheating (as in you don't have physical contact, but you tell each other everything?) Where do you draw the line? My opinion? Well, I don't have much experience in the dating/relationship field but this is my take: My instinct is to say she cheated. But, what is a kiss, really? If it were another woman, it wouldn't be. What if she was a lesbian and kissed a dude? Is that cheating? So I conclude that its the intent behind the kiss, so she didn't cheat, BUT, she also said in the episode that she didn't hate it. So is that ok? Is that even WORSE?
I have friends who have cheated and been cheated on so I KNOW that there are really strong opinions on both sides and with a person that's been cheated on, cheating is always wrong. But is cheating ever ok or right? When do we justify it, how?

Your thoughts?

p.s. She didn't tell her husband at first because she was afraid that he'd freak out, so she waited 2 weeks and finally told him. He said that what hurt him was not the kiss, but that she lied. Do you agree? As much as I say I'd be cool with it, I'm not sure how I'd feel if my dude kissed someone else. . . . I guess it depends on intent and who? But does it? I dunno.


Kristin said...

I think its all cheating. Both emotional and physical relationships where you share more of yourself than you would with a friend. I think if that happened to me I would tell my significant other IMMEDIATELY, cause honesty is the most important part of a relationship.

McJumpguez said...

But if it's then cheating and you have a strictly, "no cheating" policy, how do you move forward? How do you *grade* the cheat. Obviously, you can tell them, but that doesn't mean they'll brush it off. They have a right to break up with you. I do agree that honesty is the best, I'm just playing devil's advocate.

Laura said...

I don't think that was cheating; it sounded mostly like an accident, like it was unintentional. But then, I'm old and cynical.

Kristin said...

I think you should tell the other person and its up to them how they react, and how you explain what happened. I think if that man "friend" kissed her, she was probably acting inviting toward him, unless he just grabbed her and planted one.